Wednesday, 5 February 2014
Crossing Oceans For Others
This quote has been a big eye opener this week. Many of us are very short of time. I myself have been chastised by my husband for putting things that other people want me to do for them over my own projects. This includes things in a volunteer capacity, work related stuff I have done as a favour, or for free for friends and family, and projects/tasks which I have taken on to help people out, rather than focusing on my work which could be earning me a good wage.
It's funny that as a charitable person, I always seem to be able to find time to do things for other people, but no time to do things for me. My projects always get put on the back burner, and some people expect that I will pander to their demands and always put their needs first above my own.
It came to a head this week, when three different people assumed that I would go out of my way to accommodate their unreasonable requests, and jump when they said how high, with no concern for my own plans, thoughts or feelings. These three people who wanted to make demands on my time were all completely unrelated, but were just out for what they could get from me, with no reward or benefit on my part. Obviously, life is all about give and take, but at the moment, all I'm seeing is the take and not much give.
When you are the type of person who goes out of your way for other people, there comes a time when you realise that enough is enough. You realise that you have had enough of being leaned on, and having people make demands of you, and that you need to step away from those who expect you to go out of your way for no reward, and get rid of the voluntary things which cause you stress in order to concentrate on what makes you happy and helps you find fulfillment. This is what I will be focusing on in the coming months. As Marie Forleo says, I am getting my ticket for the "No" train.
I will be saying "No" to unreasonable demands on my time, "No" to attending meetings in my professional roles which I am expected to do in a voluntary capacity, "No" to people who want me to take on their projects for free because they want to maximise the profits for themselves, and "No" to companies who want me to advertise their products for free.
In the coming months, I will be forging on with my blogs and my Birth and Digital Marketing businesses, and getting them running at the level I want, rather than doing things for free for everyone else and losing out for myself. A little selfish I know, but it's time to focus on me for once....